Ladies! Before you say ‘yes I do’ to that man, please get to know some basic details about him. Before I became a Christian, I listened to a song that I really do not know the artist. The words of this song – if my memory is good – goes like ‘ I don’t care who you are, where you are from, what you do… as long as you love me…’ it is unfortunate that many ladies have been guided by such ‘I do not care’ attitude. It is good to feel love and to feel loved but remember feelings come and go. What you need beyond feeling is knowledge. There is the saying ‘knowledge is power’ which I strongly subscribe to.
Do not make a decision to marry any man only on the basis of what you feel about him. The best decisions in life are those made on the basis of some sufficient knowledge related to an issue, product or person. When you have some basic facts and truths about a man’s life, then you can be sure to cope and live with him under any unexpected circumstances. Get me right. Every man has some negative past and present and by marrying, he will not turn into an angel.
Some of the critical areas to focus on are like, past relationships – has he ever been married? To who? And what happened. How was he brought up? – Under one parent or both? What is his faith, convictions and passions in life? – are they compatible with yours? Does he suffer from any serious ailment? Is he committed to marriage for life or just for a period of time?
Marriage Is Incredible
Marriage is an exceptionally incredible institution. When my daughter was seven years old, she could tell me about her boyfriend - Joseph - who happened to be her classmate. She believes Joseph will be her husband despite the fact that he is not clear in his mind about her seriousness of their friendship. That is how incredible marriage is. Both the under aged and the aged, the rich and the poor, the weak and the strong are all giving marriage a very serious thought. The astonishing high rate of divorce is not, will not and should not be a hindrance to any individual from considering and indeed jumping into it, of course at the appropriate time.
Marriage is such an awesome idea that not many consider the many and great responsibilities associated with it before getting into it. Many married couples can not remember when they sat down to plan on how to tackle the challenges they face in their marriages today but the amazing fact is that they are able to maneuver through them all. This means that in a marriage of serious, positive and committed couple, there exists some divine power which when activated, releases sufficient energy, grace and wisdom to face and manage any sort of a crisis or conflict arising.
This being the case, then there is no cause of fear of getting into marriage. Friends, just be sincere. Whether you are single, married, separated, divorced or even windowed, there exists a desire in every sound human being to be in a long lasting and fulfilling companionship. To some, this longing is on the surface and to others, it is hidden deep. To some, it is a top priority while to others; it is just an issue to consider. Whichever way, marriage is wonderful. Go for it, stay in it – whatever applies to you.
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