Marriage Is Good For All Men

Marriage is good for all men. Believe you me I am a man and I know the poor state of the unmarried men. I was mature and single for some years and I know poor my quality of life was. Many of the men may appear to be rich and doing well but they live a very deprived life. There is a light in a woman that deals with some darkness in a man. There is a strength (though appearing as weakness) in a woman that confronts the strong-looking weakness of a man. There are areas of a man’s life that will never yield anything until a woman touches them.

Let no man be deceived that women are parasites as many imagine. In fact let men get it clearly; women can survive longer on their own than men can. But this is not my point. My commitment to my wife yields more and long lasting dividends than any other. Let the married men invest more in their wives than anywhere else. Men, if you dare do this, I assure that you will experience unprecedented results in all aspects of your life.

For those men that are still toying around with the idea; ‘should I marry should I not?’ hear me well, marriage is one the yard sticks to measure a successful man. Therefore, marry and have it successfully. Don’t be hindered by the few issues you have heard or even witnessed that seem to paint a bad picture of marriage. God made every man with the ability to succeed in all aspects. Men! Let us marry and stay married.

You Want A Divorce?

You want a divorce? Think again. In almost all troubled marriages, each spouse thinks that the other is the cause of the trouble. Very few husbands can look inward to find out if he has had any contribution towards the trouble. And the few that do a self search always find a fault in them which if acknowledged always leads to a very positive path towards restoration.

This also applies to the wives. Most of them always see the wrongs the husbands have committed and the good they have not done. This attitude, if not checked, leads to a fatal crash of any marriage. Each spouse should always make every effort towards the well being of the marriage. When things do not seem to be working well in your marriage, the best question to ask yourself is; “what have I failed to do?” or “what role have I played towards the situation” with this kind of an attitude, every marriage will survive any kind storm.

Divorce is never a good option but when a husband and his wife engage in a game of blaming each other, then the enemies of marriage score. I mean as much as you search yourself, there are troubles that are caused by some ‘external forces’. When this is the case, know it is time to stand together and save your marriage. How do stand together? Pray, keep talking to each other; silence is not an option is such circumstances, seek godly counsel for it is God who instituted marriage. Happy marriages are built – not bought. Take responsibility and build yourself. If you run away, you will keep running the rest of your life. Your wife is the BEST. Your husband is the BEST.

Marriage Is Good For All Ladies

Marriage is good for all ladies. I know many ladies have been the greatest casualties in marriage related conflicts. Yes I know many have persevered for a long time in extremely abusive relationships. It is true many ladies hang on till the last of the last minutes. All this withstanding, I still confidently say to you; marriage is good for you. Do not allow the few bad-looking marriages to deny you the long term benefits of a good and rich marriage.

Recently I watched a very wonderful feature on the famous Tyra Banks Show. She was hosting – in my opinion – a very wonderful and incredible couple. The husband was what I would describe as a ‘heavy weight’ but the wife was a unique one. She was around three feet tall and was said to be a victim of ‘weak bones’. They had some beautiful children and appeared to be a very happy family. This lady was happy and grateful to be married. The husband brought to her life incredible joy, fulfillment, contentment and value. She can only imagine how life would be – for her – outside their warm and fulfilling companionship.

I deeply desire to have every lady convinced that marriage is one of the best things that can happen to woman’s life. Just believe you can get a good husband. Let me say this to those who are already in unpleasant marriages, you can make the husband you desire out of the man you live with. It is possible. What you need to have is the right tools to get the right results.

Silence Is A Marriage Killer, Avoid It

Silence is a marriage killer. Avoid it. Communication is always the first initiative in any relationship. Marriages thrive and get richer when there is open and sincere communication. The bible records that the heart is the source of life issues. These hearty issues can either be good or bad. Marriage is a serious engagement of two hearts which flow issues to each other. This can only happen when a husband and wife continuously express their feelings, opinions and ideas without fear or intimidation. Talk about anything that can affect your relationship - good or bad. Do not wait until you get stuck concerning a matter for you to talk. As busy as you are, please create time for each other, listen to each other. When you talk, you build, correct and affirm one another.

These talks must be love driven. For example; when you are correcting your spouse, please do it graciously. Take care of your voice tone, your facial expression and even your body posture. When you are corrected, take it positively and promise to change. Do not try to defend yourself. Believe that your spouse wishes, plans and thinks good towards you. Avoid suspicion. It is dangerous. Any time you are not clear concerning any issue, do not guess, react or make conclusions without understanding details. Do not be seeking to win in an argument. If by chance an argument arises, loose in the argument and you will have won your spouse. Appreciate your spouse publicly and privately but correct him or her in private ONLY.

Marriage Is For Life

Marriage is for life. It is not a temporary remedy for a situation you are facing. It is not an opportunity for you to get what you do not have but a chance to share all that you are and have. Marriage should focus on a life time not ‘as long as it is convenient for me’. Selfish men and women cannot make a marriage. A happy marriage is where a husband and wife compete in out-giving each other through out their lives. For marriages that last for a life time, no spouse entertains a feeling or an idea of the existence of any other better partner than the present one.

Any married man or woman worthy some respect must be fully committed to his or her spouse without conditions. Sacrifice is one of the keys towards a life long happy marriage. Every man an every woman must make a deliberate decision to live harmoniously with his or her spouse. Respect and value for each other makes each spouse feel appreciated.

A marriage relationship is like a garden. You can not prepare your garden then expect to harvest anything if you have not planted. Neither can you plant your garden and then disappear expecting to come back one day and harvest some fruits or vegetables. The same applies to any marriage. You must put in a lot of effort, time, and commitment to achieve any joy, happiness, security, fulfillment and peace from it. One of the problems in marriages today is lack of a life time focus. Many married men and women can not be sure to say how long they will live with their partners. Please decide now that you are married for life. Let your marriage not be a means to an end but make it an end in itself.

Ladies: Know Some Basics Of Your Man Before You Say; 'Yes I Do'

Ladies! Before you say ‘yes I do’ to that man, please get to know some basic details about him. Before I became a Christian, I listened to a song that I really do not know the artist. The words of this song – if my memory is good – goes like ‘ I don’t care who you are, where you are from, what you do… as long as you love me…’ it is unfortunate that many ladies have been guided by such ‘I do not care’ attitude. It is good to feel love and to feel loved but remember feelings come and go. What you need beyond feeling is knowledge. There is the saying ‘knowledge is power’ which I strongly subscribe to.

Do not make a decision to marry any man only on the basis of what you feel about him. The best decisions in life are those made on the basis of some sufficient knowledge related to an issue, product or person. When you have some basic facts and truths about a man’s life, then you can be sure to cope and live with him under any unexpected circumstances. Get me right. Every man has some negative past and present and by marrying, he will not turn into an angel.

Some of the critical areas to focus on are like, past relationships – has he ever been married? To who? And what happened. How was he brought up? – Under one parent or both? What is his faith, convictions and passions in life? – are they compatible with yours? Does he suffer from any serious ailment? Is he committed to marriage for life or just for a period of time?

Have You Ever Been Hurt By Your Spouse?

If your spouse has hurt you, please know that it was not deliberate. You may be having all the evidence related to how he or she planned to mess your life and is not even remorseful. We all know very well that the most serious heartaches and disappointments in life are caused by the most close and dear people to us. People we have shared deeply with and committed our lives and secrets to and many other precious and fond memories we have about them. As a Christian, I draw a lot of valuable lessons from the life of Jesus Christ. Judas Iscariot was the treasurer of Jesus’ ministry and yet he betrayed Him. Peter was the closest of the three close disciples to Jesus and yet he denied Him at the hour of need. Yet in all this Jesus never revenged or took offense. It is true denial and betrayal by a person dear to you is painful beyond description but there is still hope. Jesus met Peter later and their relationship was restored to higher level than it was before.

The reason I am telling you that your spouse did not hurt you intentionally is that if you remember the good times you have shared together, then you can be a witness that something wrong happened to your spouse. He or she can not be the same person that gave you all the affection and yet now is working against you. He or she is not the same. There is need for restoration. Your spouse must be going through some difficult moments that need very close attention for him or her to be restored to the former state. Please do not take offense. Though you are the offended one, seek to help your offender because there is need for restoration. Your spouse could just be a captive of some unspoken challenges and therefore, needs help. Please forgive and help.

For The Newly Married

For the newly married, a few tips will help achieve your dreams. Enjoy every happy moment with your new love. Go places together, eat together, read together, pray together, plan together, play together and let everything be together and together. Share your passions, dreams and expectations with each other. Speak out about your weaknesses and also your strengths. Revisit your past and dot not get stuck there, be aware of where you are today and then you can view the future using one lens so as to consolidate your destiny. Purpose to keep your love hot, alive and vibrant all the rest of your live regardless of many challenges that you may face in the future. Share of any possible distractions towards your friendship and marriage and plan how you will deal with them in case they come.

This is one of the best moments you have, therefore, maximize on empowering each other. You are in a formative stage where you need to define the right course for your lives and relationship. See yourself living together to old age. Speak positively to one another. Keep on assuring one another that God created you in His image and meant that you will live with one another as husband and wife. Do not allow doubt about the choice you made to get married. Identify a mature married couple that you admire and request them to mentor you as you grow in your relationship. My other good advice to you is not to look at the few marriages that have not worked rather concentrated and emulate the many that are happily married.

Marriage Is the Best Environment To Raise Children

Children need a good environment to grow with a balanced view of life. Marriage is an institution that can provide such an environment. It is very healthy for any child to grow with both the father and the mother within reach. I understand there could be some exceptional circumstances that make this unrealistic, but it is of the essence to lay emphasis on the need for a marriage atmosphere for a healthy development of any child.

We have different arguments and views associated to the well being of children who are raised by single parents in comparison to those who grow with both parents around them. As much as we want to justify single parenting, we need first to agree that every child has a father and a mother. These two will always provide a better upbringing of their children than it would be in the case of a single parent. I am aware that this is a very sensitive subject but we have to face the reality. Those children who are raised devoid of one the parents lack some important life values.

I wish to emphasize that marriage provides the best environment for a balanced growth of the children. Nevertheless, for my dear and beloved friends who are single parents, you can still make it even under those challenging circumstances. God, who is your strength, would wish you to know that those children are precious and therefore, you should do everything within your means to raise them well. Otherwise, let the single parent desire and look forward for a good marriage partner. This partner will play the good role of a spouse and also a father/mother to the children.